The most direct reference is the track from Robbie Williams' 2000 album, Sing When You're Winning .
Another popular post uses the metaphor of shoes: "If they hurt you, they're not your size." This reframes the "hurt" not as a personal failure, but as a simple lack of compatibility.
Remind readers that "hurt" is often just a signal that something doesn't fit, rather than a sign that someone is "broken."
A common quote suggests that if hurting your partner doesn't hurt you , then it isn't true love.