Establish a "safeword" or a simple "stop/slow down" signal. Knowing you have 100% control over the pace makes it much easier to relax physically. 2. The Golden Rule: Lubrication

When you're ready for penetration, the person receiving should be the one in control of the speed.

If it hurts, stop, add more lube, and wait a few minutes. If it continues to hurt, it’s perfectly okay to call it a day and try again another time. 7. The Afterglow

are often preferred for anal play because they stay slippery longer and don't dry out.

Afterward, you might feel a bit of lingering "fullness" or sensitivity. This is normal. Drink some water, stay close to your partner, and talk about what felt good and what didn't.